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May 2011
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Ys [userpic]

For the record, while I appreciate all of the sympathy over my dad being, well, himself... I'm not particularly surprised and while I wish things were different, I'm okay with it.

After all, if he's not the father I wish I had, I'm not exactly the child he wanted either.

If anything, his desire to keep me at arms length or even farther means I don't have to deal with his crap either for a while.

(Oh, and when talking to my little brother about him recently, he said, "Yeah, whenever I talk to Dad he asks me why I can't be more like you." So this kind of thing is just endemic in my dad, with everyone in his life.)

Anyway, very tired. Bedtime.

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*hugs anyway* Your dad sounds confused.

No, not confused.

He just wants automatons who will do only what he thinks is right, rather than actual children. (He apparently has a similar issue with wives.)

Combined with a complete incapability to say anything good about someone to their face, this makes for a difficult relationship at best.

Unfortunately for him, he also still wants to try to stay in contact with his children and feel loved by them, which is pretty seriously in conflict with the other two things.